Tuesday, January 13, 2015

I am woman hear me roar? I've got to be me? Why you gotta be so rude?

I'm not sure if there was an exact date that it happened to me but it was sometime after this last birthday. Fifty-five, FINALLY it happened.
  Like those who quit smoking and proudly know that exact moment they took control, I kind of wish I had an exact date to celebrate each year, to make telling my little story right here or to my friends a little more official. A little more like the Big deal I feel it is. I know and admire so many who've had it happen to them at a MUCH younger age and then there are those I've met, bless their hearts, who seem to just be born with it.

I'm talking about confidence. Specifically The Confidence it takes to Refuse to take anyones bullshit anymore. I'm Done. that's all I keep saying in 2015.  I'm done.  I don't know how else to explain the feeling.  I am just not letting ANyone ruin my happy, positive heart.  I don't want negativity to crowd a heart that truly is looking for the good, looking for a peaceful groove. Looking to just exist in a happy environment, looking to continue to be kind to others and breathe comfortably in my skin. Skin that I am so grateful to be in. I'm grateful to be healthy, to be here, to give love and be loved. As much as kindness is my motto and I've really tried to spread that kindness even in the face of rudeness. I'm done being foolishly kind. If you are rude to me I will sure let you  know how rude you are or how you're making me feel. Because, it's bullshit to treat people like they're beneath you. It's bullshit to spread your toxicity and your own miserableness. It's bullshit not to try to be kind to others. "when given the choice between being right and being kind, choose kind.~ Dr Wayne W. Dyer” 
Being a hairstylist, there's a lot of rudeness that I've just accepted and usually try to just brush off. (eh hem).
  Like a client who could for example ask.. "lu, can you razor my bangs again", but instead rudely states ... "today You're going to razor my bangs".
That client? well, they better be careful now. First off, even with the old me... hello! I've got a very sharp razor near your rude face!
(and I'm sicilian!! :)

 Happiness is contagious. Kindness is contagious. Negativity is too. I don't want to be around anyone who is going to continually bring me down and drain my energy. Energy vampires. Of course we all have our bad days and days where we rant in our blogs :)  or to our friends and family and I truly DO want to hear when people I love are having troubles or a bad day. But I'm talking about those  people who spread negativity every freaking time they're with you. I'm done. Life is definitely too short to waste on them. I may lose a couple of relationships. I am definitely going to lose a few clients.  No matter the consequence for speaking my mind and expressing my feelings.  Love me/hate me, it's your choice.
This is an empowering feeling. I wish it would have happened to me sooner. But I'm just happy it happened and I'm feeling good about it. that's all I wanted to share today.
I'm done.


4 comments:

Giggles said...

You are not alone dear girl...didn't you hear...that statement is a rights of passage!! We all feel the same as we age. We have less tolerance for drama sucking energy vampires. I have written lots about that! All my friends are the exact same, (and shocked at their new found power)...we avoid the rude energy vampires like the plague. We no longer have the energy for it!! I think we are calm raising kids with our can do, will do, tolerate it all attitude...then we snap back to the real us...and say nay nay nay, no longer taking any ones crap!! Good for you.... your new buzz word is,,,,"Yeah that doesn't work for me".... when ever you don't want to do something!! You go girl.... empowered meno mama!!

Hugs Giggles

Lucy said...

thanks giggles!!! I like that better than 'im done" " "that doesn't work for me!!! Love u! Im glad I finally joined the club! :)

Forgetfulone said...

I love this! You go, Lu! Happiness is contagious, as is depression, sadness, anger, bitterness. I've been in a rut lately, and some time yesterday, I just decided to stop. I feel so much better. I've also changed the group of people I eat lunch with for this very reason. Thanks for being a positive inspiration!

Lyn Falcone said...

I am in your club.
xoxo