Sunday, August 23, 2009

Grow up!

sunday scribblings asks...What are your thoughts on adulthood? What do you want to be when you grow up? Are you scared of being an adult? Have you been forced to be the adult in a relationship? Do you have an adult child who won't grow up? Are you glad to finally be an adult? What do you think?
I think.. I will try to answer all of these colorful questions...

my thoughts on adulthood?? Adulthood is over rated! When we are kids we can't wait to grow up. I wished most of my childhood away just aching to be an adult, be in charge of my own life, my future, my decisions, my freedom. But when I look back, I was really forced at a ridiculously early age to do most of those things and ironically I was acting more adult at 8 years old than most adults do at 28. Yet the wishing continued and before I knew what had happened I was an adult in the eyeballs of society and up to my eyeballs in responsibilities. (be careful what u wish for?) ABSO-freaking-LUTELY!

What do I want to be when I grow up? Gee.. I just turned 50 but I am still working on that one!
that 8 year old couldn't wait to be a mama.. This mama loves being a mama and a hairstylist. But I feel like I am still growing and I still want to try my hand (or should I say FEET) at something more. I signed up for that workshop to learn how to be a zumba instructor. I am excited and a little nervous at this prospect. I've always had a passion for dancing... but I think my ultimate answer to this one would be .... happy and peaceful.. I just want to be happy and peaceful AS I CONTINUE to grow up.

Am I scared of being an adult? Not any more. Now I am more scared for my adult sons. I find myself worrying constantly. About their safety, their decisions, their disappointments and heartaches. I used to always put up the following Elizabeth Stone quote as an away message when i used to use AIM... EVERY parent will relate... "making the decision to have a child is momentous. It is to decide forever to have your heart go walking around outside your body"

Have I been forced to be the adult in a relationship? not at all! Although my husband and I share in all the adult responsibilities of our lives... Often (and I am so happy about this) He takes the roll of nurturer with me. I put up a fuss protesting his pampering and his treating me as if I am a 'delicate flower'***(see note below) .. but he knows I really like it, and need it and I know that he knows about that 8 yr. old acting like an adult portion of my life, so i know it all comes from loving me and wanting to compensate for the time when he wishes I would have been properly pampered. (did this make sense??) *** I remember seeing a tv show years ago.. where a husband so beautifully talked about how every relationship has you either being the gardener or the flower. I think it is true.. Most couples I know, it always seems the woman is the gardener, constantly tending to her flowers needs.

Do I have an adult child who won't grow up?
instead of saying NO COMMENT.. I will instead just say... I think times have really changed and young adults seem to be a bit slower at growing up than young adults in my day. And this goes back to the yellow question... Growing up and being an adult is pretty scary!

Am I glad to finally be an adult? 'finally' doesn't really apply to me, but YES I am happy to be an adult, Would be even happier to be a YOUNG adult all over again, but am just counting my blessings that I am not yet living in an adult home or living with an adulterer and have no plans on becoming an adulteress! Just an ordinary adult who sometimes acts very immature and is trying to just have lots of fun in her second act! :)






12 comments:

Old Grizz said...

lucy...you cover the feelings of most of us. nice post

Queen-Size funny bone said...

most kids today are not given responsibility or taught responsibility therefore they have no reason to grow up. moms and dads everywhere give them a pass. Adults want their kids to have a better life than theirs so they let them stay kids for a longer period of time.

Queen-Size funny bone said...

most kids today are not given responsibility or taught responsibility therefore they have no reason to grow up. moms and dads everywhere give them a pass. Adults want their kids to have a better life than theirs so they let them stay kids for a longer period of time.

Queen-Size funny bone said...

Oh yes and I would give anything in the world for somebody else to be the adult in my relationship. I need a break.

Queen-Size funny bone said...

Oh yes and I would give anything in the world for somebody else to be the adult in my relationship. I need a break.

forgetfulone said...

Very thoughtful post! I think most kids, like us, wish away their childhood for the so-called "independence." Then, we/they get there, and it's not all it's cracked up to be, but I'm happy being an adult, for the most part.

Giggles said...

Or do we molly coddle our children to keep them around longer....certainly we don't make it hard for them to stay....do we??? lol

I think some of us need to toss those red sparkly shoes for those black and white striped socks with ugly black shoes, then maybe they'd skedaddle...lol

Fun read...I definately have always been the gardener until now!! My grown up kiddies treat me pretty darn good!!

Love Giggles

2cats said...

It is hard to be an adult. I also wished away my childhood. But I won't wish for it back.
Nice thoughtful thoughts.

Tammy said...

No comment? lol I'm pretty happy with the way you turned out. I enjoyed reading up on the Saint Lucia feast. Monja

Skittles said...

I'm not awake enough to read all this, but I wanted to drop by and say howdy. :)

akadogfish said...

oh thank God I saw this blog! you don't know how gratified i am to hear young people talking about responsibility and the lack of good parenting they're getting and the will to be left alone to just experience childhood and young adulthood without having adulthood crammed down their throats.

if you want to read about these very issues from an "adult" (i'm a 44 year old father of a 14 year old girl who still slams on a skateboard, plays a guitar and gets excited over comic book releases and whenever Star Wars plays in tv, so i use the term "adult" loosely when applying it to myself), please, please, check out my blog at:

www.theviewfromplanet416.blogspot.com.

YOU ARE NOT ALONE. WE ARE OUT THERE AND WITH YOU!

Bone said...

I find myself worrying constantly. About their safety, their decisions, their disappointments and heartaches.

That was particularly beautiful. Your honesty and openness here is always refreshing, Lucy.

I have one more question for you: Do you ever think Bone will be an adult? :)