Saturday, February 03, 2007

What's so good about goodbye

When is it time to end a friendship? Whether that friendship is with a relative or a friend. How much pain should one person endure just to keep another person you love in your life? When a loving relationship become a heartache-Is that the time to Stop trying? When one person is apparently not willing to be forgiving or compromising? Should one continue loving unconditionally even if the others love is NOT unconditional? If you are left feeling abandoned and betrayed, If you are disrespected and dishonored. If you are totally misunderstood and judged unfairly. If your many attempts at reconnecting are met with a vicious, indifferent, unloving attitude, I guess it is time to say


JourneyThroughLIfe said...

Sad but well said, Lucy. It's nfortunate that situations like that do occur. But in the end, we have to look after ourselves and our own well-being.

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Speedy Chick said...

Saying goodbye in the flesh is one thing letting someone out of your heart is a whole different story. The impression people leave there is undeniable. We can only choose to learn from it and trust that having these people in our lives good or bad was meant to be. You now have a greater understanding of the gift it is to be forgiving and that makes you a better person.

Great Post:)

spider said...

Hi dear Lucy,
No easy answers here, that's for sure. What popped into my head tho' was a conversation I had with my Ma years ago. Her older sister, Rose, was really downright nasty to her for years and years. Yet, Ma always sent her cards on her birthday, Christmas, etc. I asked her, "Why bother? She's so damn mean." Ma replied, "She's my sister." Ma added, "She's just jealous of me and she had a hard early life."

Then it made me think of how Chris always says, "Don't burn bridges" and "Kill 'em with kindness." BUT, he adds, just understand where they're coming from so you don't get burnt. If you KNOW that they are what they are, then you're the one in control and that knowledge is a powerful thing indeed.
You don't ever have to stoop to their level.

Love to you, Lucy. Know you've got alotta friends around YOU!!

Crafty Green Poet said...

Who was it said there's an art to the graceful exit, of knowing when to say goodbye? It's certainly true, whoever said it.

Paris Parfait said...

Sadly, it does sound as though it's time to distance yourself from this person. Bonne courage!

jenica said...

i feel a personal connection to your post. i understand the feelings of betrayal. in friendship, especially amoung women, we bare so much of ourselves never expecting to be burned. and then the match is struck and we're left hurt, empty, and vulnerable. but the phoenix will rise.

Jane said...

Good morning Lucy! Thanks for sharing this with us.. I can feel the pain from here and it's NEVER easy to separate ourselves from someone or something we've always loved. Perhaps this is only a time for some distance from that person. My thoughts are with you :))

Lulu said...

Hi Lucy,

I have made this decision a few times and I just leave it and move on.
Old friends will always get replaced by new friends.

At some point in my life I made a vow never to hang with negative people anymore. I hang with th ePositive ones that enrich my life.

I can only tell you that it's made my life so much better.

Thanks for stopping by my blog!

deirdre said...

This is so difficult. I've got some family relationships that I've stepped back from in self-protection. I'm sorry you're going through this too.