Saturday, November 24, 2007

frugal youth

please hit play and listen to 10,000 maniacs- these are days

"Misspent Youth" is the Sunday Scribblings topic.
Hmmmmm... I am wondering .... DID I Miss Spend my youth? S.S. asks ... What kind of kid were you? Well, I was a VERY cautious kid. Looking back I can definitely say I spent too much time being cautious and worrying. I remember when we moved across town and I had to attend a new middle school. After about a week a girl I had just met asked me to come to her sleep over party. I said I have to ask my mom. My mom said "sure" but the next day I went to school and told her I wasn't allowed because My mom didn't know her family. How weird was I ?? I wanted my mom to say yes but I also wanted her to ask all the right 'mom' questions and statements of concern... ( which I of course am very good at now that I am a Mom... ) WHAT IS HER NAME/ WHERE DOES SHE LIVE/WILL HER PARENTS BE HOME/ I NEED TO MEET THEM /WHAT IS THEIR PHONE NUMBER/WHO WILL BE THERE/CALL ME IF YOU'RE UNCOMFORTABLE/ .... Who knows I could have had a great time and met more new friends. This is only one example of my weird cautiously spent youth.
My One huge regret or should I say THE main wasteful Squandering of my youth, was that I didn't attend college. At home It wasn't even discussed, EVER. I think now of how terrible it was that even at school a guidance counselor or a teacher never encouraged me. I wasn't a great student but only because I attended high school to basically socialize and ogle boys. I had a great method of cutting which never led to detention. ( which I will not reveal while I still have a kid in H.S.!) I know I had potential, Every report card, Every teacher... the same words "not working up to her potential". Geeez, What a stupid, cautious, weird kid. If I could go back I would have absorbed every lesson, every bit of information. I would have pursued college. I can't go back and do it again and who knows, if I would have taken a different path and gone off to college, I maybe wouldn't have met my husband and had all those great teenage years of his passionate kisses. hmmmm....... Educated? Loved? Educated? Loved? Come to think of it... I spent my youth well- I'm a well loved Dumb-Dumb!! :~))

13 comments:

giggles said...

Oh Lucy we ARE so much alike....haha!! And that's all I will say about that! Excellent fun post....kisses first....you can learn anytime...good kisses are hard to find! We even looked the same when we were young! Thankfully I had a mother who asked the right questions, only because she didn't have a mom that did! You were a wise old soul at such a young age! I bet you had fun!!!!

Love and hugs Sherrie

spider said...

No Lucy, you are no dumb-dumb. YOU are a well-loved, well-educated (you do NOT need to go to college to be well-educated...you can do it on your own as you did!), incredibly intelligent, wonderfully witty and beautifully caring woman. Plus, you're a natural at writing and do a better job at it than many English majors I've met. So there.
xoxoxox, Jenny P.S. And one more thing...you were smart to know the worth of passionate kisses and a handsome partner for life.

Herb Urban said...

I had an extremely overprotective mother. How I resented it at the time, but now that I am a parent I can appreciate her well placed concerns.

paisley said...

all i can say is if that is your husband in that picture... rock on!!!!!! you done good.....

tumblewords said...

dumb-dumb? I think NOT! Nice post, full of wise stuff and good thought processing...

thorns said...

You and your husband are so cute in that picture.

Crafty Green Poet said...

I was over cautious as a child and teenager too.

Patois said...

No dumb-dumb you. College, for me, was just a party time. Sounds like you learned a lot without it.

Jane Poe (aka Deborah) said...

So interesting reading everyone's reflections on their youthful years. You know, Lucy, it's never too late to get an education. Then you can have both!! I had a dad who went to medical school when I was in grade school and a mom who went to law school when I was in high school. For me, it took 11 years to get my college degree because I took classes part-time while raising my kids. There's always a way! But if you don't pursue that path, there are still many other adventures you can have!! xx, JP/deb

daisies said...

i had the mom who asked ALL the questions and it drove me crazy but i do the same with my son, tee hee ..

i had plenty of misspent youth going on, sadly. but i did go to school and am still paying for it working in a job i don't love ~ i think you did just fine :) and you're doing what you love ... i think you're the smart one for sure!!

xox

Lucy said...

Thanks so much everyone! Jane Poe- You're so right, my eldest son ALWAYS tells me that.

deirdre said...

You are soooo not a dumb-dumb.

I was even more cautious than you - wouldn't know how to cut class even now, asked permission for everything. So sad.

Gill said...

I am sure that on some weird level we are carbon copies of each other! Seriously, I could have written this post!