Friday, March 27, 2009

Thoughts on aging heart and soul

I am remembering that it wasn't too long ago when I had the passing thought that my future would Definitely contain some 'minor appearance adjustments'. Back then when I looked in the mirror and saw new little crows feet dancing around my eyes I thought.. NO WAY do I want to become all wrinkly and old looking! I mentioned it jokingly to my eldest who was probably only in high school at that time. I yelled.. "Start saving up for my surgery!!" Well, my surprisingly wise young son looked at me with his serious strong handsome face and more Like a Parent enlightening a child, he said to me.. "Mom, Every line around your eyes show all the times you've laughed in your life, Why in the world would you want to erase that reminder?" I hugged him and told him how brilliant he was and I never forgot those beautiful words and his beautifully heartfelt theory.

Fast forward a few years as I watched a very close friend make a 360 degree turn in not only her appearance but her entire attitude. I guess this was her way of handling aging. I tried so hard to be supportive of the "NEW Her", and was feeling so damn guilty and sad when our friendship died. Until, once again.. The wise words of that same son.. "mom, YOU are still the same person you were when u met her.. SHE did all the changing. If you would have met her the way her personality is today, you would have Never befriended her, right? So,move on and forget feeling guilty! I listened and moved on and am not guilty anymore, but I still can't help missing the 'old her', the friend who wasn't just totally obsessed with keeping herself youthful.


I've always felt that aging is a precious gift. I lost a dear friend to breast cancer at the tragically young age of 37. She left two young children behind. Had she been graced with a choice, I will Bet you Anything, she would have chosen growing older, no matter how many wrinkles, aches and pains, were part of that package. With each passing year and each additional wrinkle to mark each year also comes an additional indentation of wisdom. As I am growing older I feel like I am absorbing, valuing and appreciating the tiny blessings that I overlooked in my youth. The feelings of awareness, self confidence and freedom from insecurities are also rewardingly blissful. Certainly worth exchanging for some saggy, wrinkly outer skin. After all, that IS all that is.. your outer covering. If we could be turned inside-out, I think we would see that the older a person is lucky enough to grow,the more radiantly beautiful their hearts and souls become.
So I am opting out of any ideas of changing my outer skin, instead I am hoping to enjoy aging for a long, albeit wrinkly time. keeping a young attitude in mind but developing an exceedingly old, sparklingly enlightened, heart and soul. (as well as improving my computer skills!!)



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16 comments:

Queen-Size funny bone said...

I'd rather look my age than act my age!

Tumblewords: said...

The cartoon is perfect! This piece is lovely - aging is life and that's a good thing. As more of my friends disappear or pass away, it makes wrinkles look like merit badges rather than marks that need to be hidden. Good post!

anthonynorth said...

That sounds like a good philosophy to me.

Beth said...

How well you write to share the wisdom you've gained. Yes, this week's prompt pushed us to reflect. I appreciate the joy in your post. And your computer skills ARE improving, yes? I just learned about ipods. Ha!

linda may said...

I agree with you. well done Lucy.

Fledgling Poet said...

You have a wonderful outlook...and a very wise son! You must be so proud. :~)

I loved reading your post...and the 'carrot' comic was perfect!

keith said...

Three cheers - four even! There's nothing wrong with acting your age and I have no problem with
looking it!

rosey said...

Oooo no! Wrinkles are not my thing. Well, not yet!!!

Tammy said...

Your son is an old wise soul Luce. Vanity is very unattractive.You will make a beautiful grandma Lucy one day.XXOO

Patois said...

There's a reason your son is so smart, you know, and it has a lot to do with his old lady.

jay said...

You have a very wise son! It's true, most people grow wiser and more beautiful on the inside as they age.

And of course, the alternative is not so attractive. ;)

bellamocha said...

beautifully written Lucy- I think you have the most wonderful outlook and positive disposition and as for the way that you smile at us through your page...well, you'll be young at heart for many years yet and that is what counts more than how wrinkle-free you are!!

bella x

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Redness said...

A wise boy from an even wiser Mom how blessed you are ;)
Thank You Darling for your lovely comments lately ;)

Giggles said...

This is an award winning post that should be shouted from the roof tops! Your son is an old soul with wisdom well beyond his years!! This is such a smart,heartfelt punch with a sweet ending.... Love the improve my computer skills....ditto here!! You amaze me, and beauty really does shine from the inside out...you are a true beauty...always and forever!

Love Sherrie

Bone said...

I've always felt that aging is a precious gift.

I've never thought of it like that, but you are exactly right. What a wonderful perspective.

I definitely can relate to appreciating more of life's little blessings these days.

Great post, Lucy.